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By Kamlesh Tripathi
Today, once again early in the morning I was woken up
by a phone call from Sukhwinder Singh. He is a Granthi (Priest) in a Gurudwara
(Sikh temple) in Faridabad, and also happens to be my friend, in the abstract
spirits of comrade-in-arms. And, it appears Sukhwinder has a satellite connect
with God and is able to figure out, when, over a period of time my entire self goes
into a depression, thinking about my younger son, whom I lost some six years
back. And just then he calls up.
Sukhwinder doesn’t understand English well, and I can’t talk
fluent Punjabi and so we make the most of it in Hindi. His occasional calls pep
me up but I am not sure if it’s the other way round too. And, unlike most Sardars
he is short and stout and often wears a saffron patka. We came together in life
because we both share the curse of losing our sons in a space of week.
It was sometime in mid-February when I had admitted my
younger son, when he was towards his last in a hospital in Faridabad for
palliative care, where I found Sukhwinder’s son also admitted for liver
disorder, I guess. He was in serious state, around twenty years of age; and the
next day he expired. Our rooms were adjacent and so I had enough opportunities
to notice Sukhwinder, and, kind of frame him in my mind. And, upon the sad and
untimely death of his son, that afternoon, I walked across to his room and paid
my deep sense of condolence. Thereafter, in a ballooning bundle of grief,
Sukhwinder along with his wailing wife, family and the body of his son left the
hospital.
I was no
better as my tragedy too befell upon me and my family within the next four
days. I was thereafter on leave for a couple of weeks, when I resumed office. Every
morning I used to drive past a Gurudwara where one day I spotted Sukhwinder. I stopped
my car and went up to him just to ask how he was, and quite frankly also to discern,
better or worse than me. He was looking the other way when I put my hand on his
shoulder. He turned around and without wasting time, I reminded him of the
hospital and politely enquired about him, post his son’s death. He could
recollect me in seconds and asked about my son. I gave him the tragic news. He sounded
hurt. I decided to leave after a brief chat, but he ordered for a cup of tea. And
our friendship thus began.
And since
that day till the time that Gurudwara was on my way to office, once in a while
we used to meet over a cup of tea and he used to narrate quite a few invigorating
episodes from ‘Granth Sahab’ and ‘Gita’ that helped me tide away, and soften my
tragedy.
It is now
more than six years we continue as friends and we make it a point to talk to
each other at least once a month just to share small happiness and sorrows, and,
probably, one day when we stop receiving calls from each other one of us will
know the other has kicked the bucket.
Our world is full of affinity, when it comes to being
from the same religion, sect, ethnicity, language and food. But after I lost my
son I realised there is also an affinity that takes birth out of unusual
tragedies in life. I and Sukhwinder had similar tragedies leading to a very
unusual experience in life not known to very many, and that brought us
together.
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